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Wednesday, 11 November 2009

  • Being a good steward...

    is not just about money...I got the money thing down...

    Yesterday I realized that it's about taking the best care or whatever and whoever God has intrusted to you; be it your body/health, relationships, responsibilities, or possessions, and not taking anything/anyone for granted.  I'm thankful for the reminder and the grace to incorporate this revelation into my life.  Good day!!

    P.S. THANK GOD for federal holidays, I needed this!!!

Sunday, 08 November 2009

  • Love...

    my favorite song, my favorite four letter word but a notion that has alluded me for most of my life.  As I watch it bloom and grow around me, or at least appear to, for the first time in my life I recognize that it is missing.  And I also acknowledge my part in its absence.  I got issues and, though I've come a long way, Lord knows I gots a ways to go.  I guess I've really never known love, not the real kind, not the reciprocal kind.  I've known what I thought was love and later found out was lust, or infatuation or codependence, or even strong like.  Or maybe even some form of love, but never quite what I thought it was or wanted it to be.  Though I've always envisioned myself married, I've thought myself strong, independent, ok (or so I told myself) with the prospect of living the duration of my days alone; with the love of friends, family and passions to fulfill me.  I no longer feel that way, or maybe I just stopped lying to myself.

    In the rearview mirror, I can see how I have blocked on myself SO many times, but I KNOW it has been more of a blessing than a curse.  Because while I missed out on some good guys, I can see now that I missed out on a lot of not so good ones with one-track minds.  Still, I'm thankful for male friends, they have helped me get by when I just needed a hug, or a night out, or someone to listen, to tell me I was wrong, or to pray with/for me, sing with me, make me laugh til I cry, go to church/bible study with, or reassure me that I am loved.  Maybe because most of what a relationship fulfilled was fulfilled in my friendships, it took me a long time to deal with the issues that would be a very unstable foundation to build a relationship on.  Distance and separation from most/all of my friends and working in a male dominated environment has forced me to discover and get to the root of such issues.  I've learned SO much and realized that I do want love; no more stand ins or counterfeits, the real.  And I know it starts with me.  I gotta give more love, mainly to myself, but also to God and others.  Just thinking...

Friday, 06 November 2009

  • Crossroads...

    I'm at several, and more than ever, I KNOW I really need His guidance.

    Oh work, smh. A quick rundown...two unrelated firings, a promotion, a cube move and a reassignment has my work space looking like a very different place then it did even two days ago.  I've been feeling like it's time to go, but the events of the last two days have really driven that point home.  Or I wonder is it me running from adversity, OR is me staying me feeling like I have to stick things out.  Smh.  God knows and he will make things clear...

    Other issues looming but nothing I need to go into right now, soon come.  Adios.

Monday, 02 November 2009

  • Home...

    sweet home.  A half a day early but hey, when I'm ret to go, I'm out!  Had a great time in NY, reconciled some things and put some to rest.  Church was great as was brunch in my favorite restaurant for not just Bruce's bday, but as I found out, Tamish's too.   When we got to the restaurant, went to the back to hug all my ppl and give Tamish a card, then returned to the front for Bruce's brunch.  Laughs were plenty, and it was definitely the perfect place, especially once the sun came out and shone through the wall of windows.  Thanks to Bousa since it was his bday celebration earlier this year that introduced me to the place...Tired, content...goodnight...

Wednesday, 28 October 2009

  • Today...

    I took the day off...There is rarely a day when I want to go work, but today I felt a strong unction to stay home so stay home I did.  Had the latest of two heart to hearts with my sis since we've been back under the same roof, and I realize that more than being exhausted and having bad headaches, that's the reason I felt so strong about staying home...I thank God for what he's doing...I just have to constantly remember that my ways are not His ways and especially His timing is not mine.  I'm definitely here for such a time as this.  The same reason the two of us have issues, absentee parents (one physically, the other emotionally), is the same reason we are so gifted.  And maybe the best answer to our individual and collective issues is each other...We shall see...

    Why is it that once you start all but ignoring a guy, he wants to be in your face?!?!  And my thing is, once I stop paying attention to you, I've lost interest!   This is the second occurrence in the past month. Games!!!

    I think B feels some type of way about me not taking him up on his invite, per him not answering the last text I sent him about an hour ago.  Yes, I like you, so I want you to be happy, but above all, I'm gonna be happy.  I've made the mistake of putting other people's happiness above my own for way too long.  But I think he thinks that I don't want to depend on him or I don't trust him.  Neither of which is the case, well the dependent thing, kinda sorta, but it's not personal, I don't want to be dependent in any way on anyone.  Maybe I can make it better when I see him on his bday and he sees his present and card.  I love that the present I gave him two years ago still sits on his dresser with the "card" (notepad paper with meaningful words scrawled on it) attached to it.  :) We might be something one day, but if that doesn't happen, I appreciate the positive male presence that he has been in my life since we've been friends.

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  • God is great... me?!? I'm aiight! A complex person who enjoys simplicity... I like all positive things and people and I love my friends and family!

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  • My dad is in the hospital but won't tell me why,WHY?!? Another person to worry about!  Hoping to replace worrying with prayer soon...
  • 11 months ago, I left NY.  Next month, a year later, I'll be celebrating my return with some of my closest and other not so close friends.